Sam met a guy on-line. They talked a bit, and then met one weekend for brunch. On-line guy seemed nice, was a work-a-holic, and was new to the area and didn't know many people there. Sam had no romantic interest in on-line guy (now referred to as OLG). However, Sam is a nice guy, and thought he could forge some kind of platonic friendship with OLG. During brunch, many of their common interests came out - one of which is Sam and OLG both like musicals.
A little while after the brunch, Sam and his friend A (a female) were going out to dinner & to see a musical play. Sam is a gay man. A is a straight female - this outing was not a date. Sam mentioned to OLG that he was seeing a musical, and thought OLG might have fun going with he and A. So, OLG purchased an individual ticket to the musical and planned to join Sam & A for dinner prior.
Sam and A picked up OLG at his place. They all went to the restaurant for dinner. OLG sat next to Sam. Almost immediately, OLG puts his hand on Sam's knee. Sam adjusted himself in a very subtle way to try and get OLG to remove his hand from Sam's knee. Didn't work. Shortly thereafter, OLG put his hand further up on Sam's leg. Sam adjusted again. Didn't work again. OLG then placed his hand on Sam's twig and berries. At this point, Sam threw subtle to the wind, and physically brushed OLG's hand off his sausage.
OLG was pissed and announced that he decided he was not going to the musical and for A to please take him home. A got up to give them a few minutes to talk. OLG asks, "Do you know why I'm not going to the show now?" Sam says, "No, I don't know why." OLG says "I want to fuck you and you made it clear that that isn't going to happen. Please take me home now." Awkward to say the least...
So, the three of them get in A's car and take OLG home. Sam ended up walking him to his door. OLG unlocked the door, opened the door, and somehow pulled a Houdini move and pushed Sam into the condo. OLG kept trying to kiss Sam, and have his way with Sam. Sam was having none of it. A was in her car watching all of this go down laughing hysterically almost to the point of peeing in her pants.
How does someone keep hearing "yes" when the other person keeps saying "no"? I mean, come on. Did OLG have some kind of waxy build up in his ears that precluded him from hearing the words "no"? Did he mistake having his hand brushed off of Sam's leg not once, not twice, but three times as some kind of mistake where Sam meant to pull OLG's hand higher up on his leg each time? Not sure, but Sam sure meant "no" and OLG certainly wanted to hear "yes".
It certainly isn't the first time someone's heard "yes" when the words were really "no". I wrote about Pokey (click here) a while back... On our last date, he continually poked me and tickled my knee throughout the evening. Each time he did it, I told him to stop. And when I said stop, I didn't insinuate that by saying stop, I really meant do it more. I brushed his hand away from me. Elbowed him when he tried to poke my side. Really, it wasn't amusing and I really wanted him to cut it out. Yet another case of someone saying "no" and the other person hearing "yes".
Moral of the story - people, when you hear a serious "no" - it almost always probably means really "no." So, cut it out please. Thank you.
Until next time...
