In February, I wrote about love being in the air , and several of my friends who were beginning healthy and exciting relationships.
Here are a few updates:
- Molecule and I are still going strong. In fact, we are starting to talk about (gasp!) moving in together!
- A is still engaged to B, and I had the pleasure of attending her bridal shower a few weeks ago. What a lovely luncheon with a lovely group of family and friends. A was simply radiant and glowing. I can't wait for the wedding in August.
- Sparkles & C have broken up. C seemed to be a good guy in person. But apparently behind the scenes, there was a totally different version of C who wasn't such a good guy. Sparkles couldn't take Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde any more, so C had to go.
- D & A are still going strong. They are even taking a trip to Europe together in a few weeks!
- D & MM are still going good.
- C, who met her guy through It's Just Lunch, has recently ended her relationship with him. Apparently, he wasn't "ready".
- M and his girl K are getting ready for their wedding very soon!
Another new development concerns a very good friend of mine, Panda. Panda and I met in a ceramics class many years ago. She's an amazing person with a huge heart and lots of love to give. She's spent a good amount of time getting her dream job, purchasing a house all on her own, planting and cultivating a gigantic garden full of vegetables and fruit trees, and really getting herself established at her job. I've been trying to get her to come out of her shell and date and let someone else in on how amazing she is. Well, a few weeks ago, she called me and told me that she went out on a date! I was so excited. The guy, J, asked her out, and she agreed. They then kept seeing each other, texting each other, and calling each other, and all seemed great. Except for the fact that he wasn't 100% over his ex-girlfriend (of 2 years) yet. So, Panda and J took it kind of slow. They spent a lot of time getting to know each other, and left the physical stuff for later. A few weeks into their courtship, J told Panda that he was thinking about moving somewhere new. Then he said he didn't really know what he wanted. But, he continued calling, texting, and seeing Panda. She was rightfully frustrated - J didn't know if he was coming or going or what he wanted. But it was clear that he still wanted to spend time with Panda. Still, the physical stuff waited. But, we all know how hard it is to contain yourself in certain situations. They found themselves in a situation in which they couldn't contain themselves. Then things changed. J was distant. J stopped calling & texting as much. Then he started calling & texting again. On and off. Off and on. So confusing for Panda. She still doesn't really know what is going on inside J's head.
It is with Panda's, Sparkle's, and C's predicaments (and of course my past dating adventures, and the adventures of those of most of my other friends) that I thought about creating some sort of "dating application" we could hand out to potential suitors. Of course this is moot if the suitor is full of shit. But if they are even only partially full of shit, some of the answers might provide some insight into their dating state of mind, right?
- Do you really want to date?
- If yes, are you sure?
- Are you really really sure?
- If no, are you looking for just a fuck?
- Are you looking for a friend with benefits or a one-night kind of thing?
- If you do really want to date, what kind of baggage are you toting?
- carry on?
- carry on that goes in the overhead
- carry on that goes under your seat
- carry on that fits in your pocket
- checked?
- 1 bag
- 2 bags
- 3 bags or more
- oversize?
- over 50 lbs
- over 100 lbs
- too heavy for any scale
- After a first date, do you observe the 3-day rule before calling again?
- What is your housing situation?
- live alone
- have roommates
- Have roommates and have own room
- Have roommates and share room
- live on a couch
- live with parents
- live with other family member? (list which one(s)).
- What is your transportation situation?
- have own car
- have zip car or some other type of rental situation
- motorcycle or scooter
- skate board
- bus / public transportation
- bike
- foot
- What is your job situation?
- gainfully employed
- Do you like what you do?
- Do you aspire to do something different?
- unemployed
- trust fund
- moocher
- What is your mental situation?
- stable
- slightly unstable
- basket case
- certifiable
- What is your communication situation?
- can communicate openly and honestly, even if it is not what you want to hear
- will tell you what I think you want to hear
- will outright lie
- communication... what is that?
- What is your kid situation?
- have none
- have some (fill in # _____)
- If have one or multiple, how much time do you spend with your kid(s)?
- sole custody
- shared custody
- If multiple, are they all with the same person?
- want one or some? (yes or no)
- want none
- What do you like to do for fun? (Short answer).
- If heaven exists, what would you like God (or whomever is there to greet you) to say when you arrive at the pearly gates?
Dating is hard. Dating sometimes leads to disaster. But it also sometimes leads to something really wonderful. It is a crazy, scary, pleasurable, uncomfortable, fun, awe-inspiring, educational, amazing, emotional ride. It is a ride, and you have to get on the train to take the ride. That ride may or may not be where you want to go. But if you don't take it, you will never know. If, however, the ride turns out to be going where you don't want to go, you HAVE TO GET OFF THE TRAIN. Trust your gut. Trust your friends. Trust yourself to decide what is right for you at that point in time. Each ride will help you define and clarify where it is you think you want to go. (At least they did for me).
Happy riding!
Until next time...
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